Yet, you need to know how to balance your thoughtfulness and forgiving demeanor with your rightful need as a human being to be taken seriously and to be respected.
But, before I go further, I want to make it clear that I am not trying to blow sunshine up my own ass in persuasion I’m some sort of Godsend. I am by no means an angel; I’ve just witnessed the bullsh*t that stems from bad people using those with good intentions to their own advantage, and quite frankly, I think it’s lame. I think it’s super lame.
So take it from me, the “nice girl,” don’t be afraid to add a little salt to your sweet tendencies because the following struggles you face as an overly-nice person can be fixed if you just grow a backbone:
1. You are a universal doormat.
I can’t even count the amount of times in my life when there may have well been footprints plastered across my face.
Why? Because there are people out there who will take advantage of everything you selflessly offer, whether or not they are friends, a boyfriend, an acquaintance, or even a complete stranger.
Yet, there’s a simple solution to this downward spiral of oblivion, which we “nice folk” succumb to: Speak your damn mind! Just because you’re a people pleaser by nature doesn’t mean you don’t have a say in what’s wrong and what’s right.
Stand up for yourself; those who respect you will admire the fact you can say what you need to say in a peaceful manner.
2. You are mistaken for being naïve.
Sometimes, when you’re an optimistic person who sees the glass as “half full,” you are mistaken for being oblivious to the negativity that exists in the world around you.
Not only is this sentiment belittling, but it is also complete and utter bullsh*t.
Just because you chose not to dwell on the toxic nonsense of everyday life doesn’t mean you are unaware of it; it just means you would rather think about the things that make you happy, instead.
Most of the time, this creates an aura that people often diminish, but, in the end, the joke is on them. Why? Because we are capable of taking a negative situation and finding the silver lining in it, while those who call us “naïve” aren’t even able to see past the problem.
Keep up the optimism, and believe in your intelligence. An educated, yet positive attitude is admirable.
3. You are rarely taken seriously.
I’ll admit it: I have an extremely bubbly personality. I smile like it’s nobody’s business and laugh to lighten any and every awkward situation I come across. Therefore, I am rarely taken seriously when need be.
When you’re as carefree and happy-go-lucky as f*cking Buddy The Elf, people will think of your optimism as oblivion and disregard any valid point you try to make.
To prevent this, you need to understand that having a resting nice face does not take away your intelligence, so own it.
4. You forgive and forget far too easily.
One major downfall of being too nice is giving people the benefit of the doubt when they definitely don’t deserve it.
Trust me, I’m not one to hold grudges, but I have fallen victim to forgiving people too quickly and being f*cked over by them directly after. It’s not fun. In fact, it leaves you feeling pretty darn stupid.
